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Honesty and sincerity are crucial virtues for several reasons:

1. Trustworthiness: Being honest and sincere builds trust with others. When people know they can rely on your word, it strengthens relationships, whether in personal or professional settings.
2. Integrity: These virtues are fundamental to maintaining personal integrity. Integrity involves consistency in thoughts, words, and actions. When you are honest and sincere, you align your behavior with your values.
3. Communication: Open and honest communication is essential for effective interaction. When you express yourself sincerely, it promotes clear and transparent communication, reducing misunderstandings and conflicts.
4. Personal Growth: Being honest with yourself about your strengths, weaknesses, and areas for improvement is crucial for personal growth. Sincerity in self-reflection allows you to learn from experiences and continuously develop as an individual.
5. Ethical Decision-Making: Honesty and sincerity are integral to ethical decision-making. Acting with integrity, even in challenging situations, helps maintain moral standards and contributes to a more just and fair society.

To abide by these virtues, consider the following:

1. Self-awareness: Reflect on your values and beliefs. Understand what honesty and sincerity mean to you personally.
2. Intentional Communication: Be mindful of your words and actions. Strive to communicate openly and sincerely, avoiding deceit or manipulation.
3. Admit Mistakes: If you make a mistake, admit it. Taking responsibility for your actions demonstrates honesty and helps build trust.
4. Consistency: Strive for consistency in your behavior. Align your actions with your words and maintain integrity in all aspects of your life.
5. Empathy: Understand and consider the perspectives and feelings of others. Honest communication should be paired with empathy to build understanding and trust.
6. Value-driven Decision-Making: Base your decisions on your values. When faced with dilemmas, consider how your choices align with your principles and whether they reflect honesty and sincerity.
7. Continuous Improvement: Regularly evaluate and challenge yourself to grow. Honest self-reflection is a powerful tool for personal development.

Remember that honesty and sincerity are ongoing practices rather than static achievements. By integrating them into your daily life and interactions, you contribute to a more positive and trustworthy environment.

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How best to relate Honesty to Empathy? Site examples to illustrate different results.

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Honesty and empathy are closely connected, and when combined, they contribute to more authentic and meaningful relationships. Here are examples illustrating different outcomes when honesty is paired with empathy:

1. Honesty without Empathy:

• Scenario: A friend asks for your opinion on their new business idea, which you believe has significant flaws.
  • Response: Without empathy, you might bluntly point out all the flaws, potentially causing your friend to feel discouraged or hurt.

• Honesty with Empathy:

• Scenario: The same friend asks for your opinion on their business idea.

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HONEST SELF EXAMINASION BEFORE ANALIZING OTHERS !   

NIR and FAR

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Holiday Greetings from President & Mrs. Salovey from Yale

As the winter holidays approach, we are grateful to serve Yale together with you. Thank you for enriching our campus and our world. May your holidays be restful, joyous, and bright.

With warmest wishes,
Peter Salovey and Marta Moret

Letter of Gratitude from Billy to President & Mrs. Salovey

Dear President and Mrs. Salovey,

Happy Holidays and Best wishes to MORE AFTER YALE.

I started my <https://friendshipology.net> website

after learning about Emotional Intelligence from you.

Thank you sincerely !

Billy – William Ming Sing Lee  ( YC’55. YArch.’59 )

Instant Acknowledgement – Warm & Friendly 

Dear Billy,

Thank you very much for your lovely note and your kind words. I am glad to hear from you. Marta and I send best wishes to you for a happy, healthy, and rewarding new year.

Sincerely,

Peter

Peter Salovey

President and Chris Argyris Professor of Psychology

Yale University

P.O. Box 208229

New Haven, CT  06520-8229

Billy Notes:

In 1990, Salovey and Mayer coined the term “Emotional Intelligence” (or EI), describing it as “a form of social intelligence that involves the ability to monitor one’s own and others’ feelings and emotions, to discriminate among them, and to use this information to guide one’s thinking and action.”

Besides Emotional Intelligence, Goodwill and Sincerity are most Essential in Building Friendship.

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Li Han and “Uncle Billy “  Dec. 2023

Alice Chiang, our dear friend and Ladera Neighbor, became 80 years old this Thanksgiving Day, 2023.  Lucille and I were invited to join her Chinese Banquet Lunch Celebration in Midtown San Francisco. As we have both stopped driving a year ago, our No. One Son, Prescott, offered to drive us there from Portola Valley, and our No. Two Son, Gary, was to drive us back with his wife, Marchelle. All five of us went to support the Celebration, for indeed Alice has been a dear old Family Friend. We didn’t want to miss it for any reason.

At the Banquet I presented a short speech – still Lucille, Prescott, Gary, and Marchelle thought it was a shade long. I am quite pleased with my speech however, because it was authentically felt and delivered.  I described how we, indeed, felt about Alice and our relationships by suggesting an adjective for each of the five alphabets from her name A L I C E.  It went like this

A    ADORABLE –  We all truly adore her.

L     LOVING – Her love and caring for us also.

I      INTIMATE – Our Feelings towards each other. Our Deep Bonding.

C     CHRISTIAN – Alice’s Faith and Values. Globally Compassionate.

E     EMERAL – A beautiful Jewel – Beautifully Green forever.

This joyous gathering of Alice’s friends and relatives included John Sieh, Jimmy Hsu, and Billy Lee- sitting together at one table. We three old friends all studied Architecture in U.S. colleges around the same time. We indeed have a special rapport largely due to our common ideal about True and Everlasting Friendships and Yi Chi in Chinese. We truly enjoyed seeing each other again, chatting and laughing together, and even hugging and holding hands lovingly.

From left: Old Friends John Sieh, Jimmy Hsu, & Billy Lee

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Friendship – Importance of Keeping In Touch – Magic Touches – When, Whom, What, and How ? Approach individuals or Small and Large Groups – Old and New Friends – Widening the Circle – Deepening The Good Feelings. What Gratification! Billy Inquired _________________________________________________________

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Maintaining friendships and keeping in touch is indeed crucial for our well-being and personal growth. Here are some thoughts on the importance of keeping in touch, magical touches, and ways to approach individuals or groups:

Importance of Keeping in Touch:

1. Emotional Support:

1. Friends provide emotional support during both good and bad times.
2. Regular communication helps strengthen this support system.

2. Personal Growth:

2. Friends can inspire and encourage personal growth.
3. Sharing experiences and insights can lead to mutual development.

3. Reducing Isolation:

3. Regular communication helps combat feelings of isolation.
4. Knowing that someone cares can have a profound impact on mental health.

4. Building Trust:

4. Consistent communication builds trust and deepens the bond between friends.
5. Trust is the foundation of any strong and lasting friendship.

Magic Touches:

1. Random Acts of Kindness:

1. Send unexpected messages of appreciation or encouragement.
2. Small gestures can have a significant impact.

2. Surprise Gifts:

2. Sending surprise gifts or cards shows thoughtfulness.
3. It doesn’t have to be extravagant; the sentiment matters most.

3. Celebrating Milestones:

3. Acknowledge and celebrate your friend’s achievements.
4. Share in their joy and provide genuine congratulations.

4. Quality Time:

4. Sometimes, a simple, quality conversation can be magical.
5. Be fully present when interacting with your friends.

When, Whom, What, and How?

1. When to Reach Out:

1. Regularly check in with friends, even if it’s just a quick message.
2. Especially during tough times, a simple “How are you?” can make a difference.

2. Whom to Approach:

2. Don’t limit yourself to a specific group. Reach out to both old and new friends.
3. Connect with people who share your interests or values.

3. What to Share:

3. Share experiences, thoughts, and feelings.
4. Be open about your life and encourage your friends to do the same.

4. How to Approach:

4. Use a variety of communication methods: texts, calls, video chats.
5. Tailor your approach to your friend’s preferences and comfort level.

Widening the Circle:

1. Join Social Activities:

1. Attend events or groups related to your interests.
2. This can lead to meeting new people and expanding your circle.

2. Networking:

2. Leverage professional networks for both personal and career connections.
3. Attend meetups or events in your community.

Deepening the Good Feelings:

1. Express Gratitude:

1. Regularly express gratitude for your friends.
2. Let them know how much you value their presence in your life.

2. Apologize and Forgive:

2. Be quick to apologize and forgive.
3. Misunderstandings happen, but resolving them strengthens friendships.

3. Shared Experiences:

3. Create and share memorable experiences.
4. Travel, adventures, or even simple gatherings can deepen bonds.

What Gratification!

1. Mutual Growth:

1. Witnessing the growth and success of your friends is immensely gratifying.
2. Celebrate each other’s achievements and be a source of support.

2. Meaningful Connections:

2. Building and maintaining meaningful connections is fulfilling.
3. It contributes to a sense of belonging and purpose.

3. Joy in Giving:

3. The joy of giving, whether through support or shared experiences, is unparalleled.
4. Knowing you positively impact someone’s life is deeply gratifying.

In conclusion, keeping in touch with friends, both old and new, involves a combination of regular communication, thoughtful gestures, and shared experiences. The gratification comes from the deepening of connections, mutual growth, and the joy found in meaningful friendships.

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Billy’s 2023 Thanksgiving Message To His Friends:

Dear All, Again, I wish to express my GRATEFULNESS to you all. For you have TRULY BEEN NICE to me. Wish you All a VERY HAPPY THANKSGIVING and Have a RELAXED & CHEERFUL Breakfast the Day After. Especially enjoy a cup of Tea or Coffee in your Favorite Mug.

Love, Billy  李名信

Photo from Yale & Andover classmate, Norm Allenby, who told Billy about his son’s memorable playdate years ago. The six-year-old little friend arrived at Allenby’s front door and proclaimed ” Be Nice Me”. Billy has embraced these words as his “Golden Rule” in <https://friendshipology.net>