by Billy Lee – Feb. 2024

 So many surprises happened one after another last month.

First a letter from Spokane, Washington by a fellow who signed his name Xiong Yu.

Dear Lee Lao, Miss old days. Still remember your visit in Shanghai almost 30 years ago? The guest on the right doing fine? Wish everyone well in 2024 !   

Xiong Yu, Billy, & Yuan Li – 1994 Shangha


A second letter from a young lady from Toronto, Canada.

My name is Christine. My grandfather Alex Yu passed away in Vancouver in March 2022. My family and I (we live in Toronto) are still in the process of going through his things and one of things we came across is the attached letter accompanied by the Li (Lee) family tree carefully tucked into a folder in his desk. I googled the name on the letterhead and found your website. Not sure if you are the same William Ming Sing Lee with family roots from Ningbo? If you are, that is incredibly exciting as I have always wanted to learn more about my family’s history. And if not, I would just like to say that I thoroughly enjoyed your website and the wisdom you are trying to impart

Sincerely,  c. 

Below Attached: The letter found in Christine’s grandfather’s desk.


A third letter came from Christine Ho, daughter of my FF Brother Larry Ho:

Hi Uncle Billy

,I recently digitized my family’s old slides. Here are a couple with you in them. Do you recognize these handsome young men?! I would love to see you again. In fact, I am coming out to the SF area on February 11th and staying with Adrian for a couple of days before heading up to Marin County to hang out with my daughter’s family. On the 11th we will surely be watching the Super Bowl, but are you open on Monday the 12th? If you are, Pete and I could visit. We could easily pick up some restaurant take-out and bring it to your house for lunch or dinner. Or we could bring over tea/coffee and some snacks. Whatever is easiest for you. It would be great to see Prescott if he is available but it sounds like it’s far for Gary to come. The last time I saw Pres and Gary, it was 1984 and they were helping me load my boxes into my car so I could move from your house to my first away-from-home apartment in Mountain View!

FF Bros. Left to Right: Frank Tung, Wm. Wu, Larry Ho ( Christine’s Dad),                                Bob Lee, and Billy Lee – FF Boston Lodge 1954 ?


Xiong Yu was in fact the young college grad I met on the train from Shanghai to Ningbo 30 some years ago. He was indeed super kind in helping me carry my luggage off the train.

Christine Yu found the right William Ming Sing Lee. We are indeed related. Her grandfather’s mother was a Lee. I immediately replied to her and warmly embraced her as my new grandniece. I sent her a photo of me and my wife, and she sent me back one of her with her brother and sister.

Christine Ho is herself a grandmother now. She, her husband Peter, brother Adrian, gathered at our home Monday for lunch, with Lucille and me and our two sons Prescott and Gary. The younger generation members are only a year apart from one another. We treasure our generational connection.

Left to Right: Gary, Lucille, Peter, Christine, Billy, and Prescott                                     Photo by  Adrain Ho – Feb. 12, 2024



Billy wrote to Dr. Rick Hanson <drrh@rickhanson.net> Feb. 1, 2024

Dear Rick – Dr. Hanson,

I hope you and Forrest will talk about the following question one day. This actually is about a recent discovery about my own behavior.

We were having problems with rats & mice in our house. With help from a hired exterminator we shut off all possible entries for rats to enter into the house then set up traps to catch those within. Yes, it was very successful. We caught four – all slaughtered bloody and mercilessly. No more rats in our house !

Then we also had ants invading our kitchen counter. I swiped them up with a sponge and washed them down the drain. More appeared non stop, I smashed them with my bare fingers. After a cousin installed a trap that first attracted the ants then sent them back with poison to infect the whole colony. Very Successful indeed. All clear now. What satisfaction !

I feel guilty however. I wonder about my own claim for having Compassion. It seems that it was with Brute Power that I Got Rid of These Deplorables. My only rationale was they invaded my property line – which they did not know existed.

I need some Breathing Exercises to calm me down. It does not seem possible.

Cheers !



What words and games to teach elementary students on Trust, and separately on Forgiveness,


Teaching elementary students about trust and forgiveness is a valuable and important aspect of their social and emotional development. When introducing these concepts, it’s helpful to use age-appropriate language and engaging activities. Here are some words and games you can incorporate into your lessons:



  1. Trustworthy: Reliable and can be trusted.
  2. Reliability: Being dependable and consistent.
  3. Honesty: Telling the truth and being straightforward.
  4. Responsibility: Taking ownership of one’s actions and duties.
  5. Consistency: Being the same over time, predictable.
  6. Dependable: Someone or something that can be relied upon.

Games and Activities:

  1. Trust Circle:
  1. Have students form a circle and take turns falling backward, relying on their classmates to catch them. This helps build trust and teamwork.
  1. Team-building Games:
  1. Engage students in various team-building activities that require trust, such as trust walks or trust falls.
  1. Storytelling:
  1. Share stories or read books that highlight the importance of trust and the consequences of breaking trust.



  1. Forgiveness: Letting go of anger or resentment towards someone who has wronged you.
  2. Empathy: Understanding and sharing the feelings of others.
  3. Apology: A sincere expression of regret or remorse.
  4. Reconciliation: Restoring a friendly relationship after a conflict.
  5. Understanding: The ability to comprehend the feelings and perspectives of others.

Games and Activities:

  1. Role-playing:
  1. Encourage students to engage in role-playing scenarios where they practice forgiving and apologizing.
  1. Forgiveness Circle:
  1. Sit in a circle and discuss situations where forgiveness is needed. Encourage open dialogue about forgiveness and its importance.
  1. Art and Writing Activities:
  1. Have students express their understanding of forgiveness through drawings or writing. This can help them process their emotions and thoughts.
  1. Story Sharing:
  1. Share stories or read books that emphasize the power of forgiveness. Discuss the characters’ emotions and actions, promoting empathy and understanding.

Remember to create a safe and supportive environment where students feel comfortable exploring these concepts and sharing their thoughts and feelings. Incorporating these words and activities into your curriculum can help instill valuable social and emotional skills in elementary students.


Please describe the exact steps taken in a Forgiveness Circle Exercise


A Forgiveness Circle exercise is a structured activity designed to facilitate open communication and understanding about forgiveness among participants. Here are the steps you can take in conducting a Forgiveness Circle Exercise:


  1. Introduction:
  1. Start by explaining the purpose of the Forgiveness Circle. Emphasize that it’s a safe space for sharing and understanding forgiveness.
  1. Setting Guidelines:
  1. Establish ground rules to ensure a respectful and supportive environment. Encourage active listening, empathy, and confidentiality.
  1. Circle Formation:
  1. Arrange the participants in a circle, either sitting on the floor or in chairs. The circle setup fosters a sense of equality and inclusion.
  1. Opening Meditation or Activity:
  1. Begin with a brief meditation, deep-breathing exercise, or a calming activity to create a focused and relaxed atmosphere.
  1. Introduction of Forgiveness Concept:
  1. Briefly discuss the concept of forgiveness, emphasizing that it involves letting go of anger or resentment towards someone who has wronged you.
  1. Sharing Personal Stories:
  1. Invite participants to share personal stories or experiences related to forgiveness. Encourage them to express their feelings and describe the impact of forgiveness on their lives.
  1. Active Listening:
  1. Stress the importance of active listening during the sharing process. Participants should listen attentively without interrupting, offering supportive body language to the speaker.
  1. Empathy Exercise:
  1. Facilitate an empathy-building exercise where participants reflect on the feelings and perspectives of others. This can involve role-playing or discussing hypothetical scenarios.
  1. Apology and Forgiveness:
  1. Discuss the role of apologies in the forgiveness process. Explore the significance of sincere apologies and how they contribute to healing relationships.
  1. Reflective Questions:
  1. Pose reflective questions to the group, such as:
  1. What does forgiveness mean to you?
  2. How do you feel when someone forgives you?
  3. What challenges do you face in forgiving others?
  1. Group Discussion:
  1. Encourage a group discussion where participants can share insights, ask questions, and express their thoughts on forgiveness. Facilitate an open dialogue that promotes understanding.
  1. Closing Ritual:
  1. Conclude the Forgiveness Circle with a closing ritual, such as a gratitude circle or a final meditation. Reinforce the importance of the shared experience and the lessons learned.
  1. Follow-up:
  1. Consider providing resources or activities for participants to continue exploring forgiveness outside the circle. Emphasize the ongoing nature of forgiveness and personal growth.

By following these steps, you create a structured and supportive environment for participants to engage in meaningful discussions about forgiveness, fostering empathy and understanding within the group.

Why it’s important to be Honest and Sincere? How best to abide by these virtues?


Honesty and sincerity are crucial virtues for several reasons:

  1. Trustworthiness: Being honest and sincere builds trust with others. When people know they can rely on your word, it strengthens relationships, whether in personal or professional settings.
  2. Integrity: These virtues are fundamental to maintaining personal integrity. Integrity involves consistency in thoughts, words, and actions. When you are honest and sincere, you align your behavior with your values.
  3. Communication: Open and honest communication is essential for effective interaction. When you express yourself sincerely, it promotes clear and transparent communication, reducing misunderstandings and conflicts.
  4. Personal Growth: Being honest with yourself about your strengths, weaknesses, and areas for improvement is crucial for personal growth. Sincerity in self-reflection allows you to learn from experiences and continuously develop as an individual.
  5. Ethical Decision-Making: Honesty and sincerity are integral to ethical decision-making. Acting with integrity, even in challenging situations, helps maintain moral standards and contributes to a more just and fair society.

To abide by these virtues, consider the following:

  1. Self-awareness: Reflect on your values and beliefs. Understand what honesty and sincerity mean to you personally.
  2. Intentional Communication: Be mindful of your words and actions. Strive to communicate openly and sincerely, avoiding deceit or manipulation.
  3. Admit Mistakes: If you make a mistake, admit it. Taking responsibility for your actions demonstrates honesty and helps build trust.
  4. Consistency: Strive for consistency in your behavior. Align your actions with your words and maintain integrity in all aspects of your life.
  5. Empathy: Understand and consider the perspectives and feelings of others. Honest communication should be paired with empathy to build understanding and trust.
  6. Value-driven Decision-Making: Base your decisions on your values. When faced with dilemmas, consider how your choices align with your principles and whether they reflect honesty and sincerity.
  7. Continuous Improvement: Regularly evaluate and challenge yourself to grow. Honest self-reflection is a powerful tool for personal development.

Remember that honesty and sincerity are ongoing practices rather than static achievements. By integrating them into your daily life and interactions, you contribute to a more positive and trustworthy environment.


How best to relate Honesty to Empathy? Site examples to illustrate different results.


Honesty and empathy are closely connected, and when combined, they contribute to more authentic and meaningful relationships. Here are examples illustrating different outcomes when honesty is paired with empathy:

  1. Honesty without Empathy:
  • Scenario: A friend asks for your opinion on their new business idea, which you believe has significant flaws.
    • Response: Without empathy, you might bluntly point out all the flaws, potentially causing your friend to feel discouraged or hurt.
  • Honesty with Empathy:
  • Scenario: The same friend asks for your opinion on their business idea.






Holiday Greetings from President & Mrs. Salovey from Yale

As the winter holidays approach, we are grateful to serve Yale together with you. Thank you for enriching our campus and our world. May your holidays be restful, joyous, and bright.

With warmest wishes,
Peter Salovey and Marta Moret

Letter of Gratitude from Billy to President & Mrs. Salovey

Dear President and Mrs. Salovey,

Happy Holidays and Best wishes to MORE AFTER YALE.

I started my <https://friendshipology.net> website

after learning about Emotional Intelligence from you.

Thank you sincerely !

Billy – William Ming Sing Lee  ( YC’55. YArch.’59 )

Instant Acknowledgement – Warm & Friendly 

Dear Billy,

Thank you very much for your lovely note and your kind words. I am glad to hear from you. Marta and I send best wishes to you for a happy, healthy, and rewarding new year.



Peter Salovey

President and Chris Argyris Professor of Psychology

Yale University

P.O. Box 208229

New Haven, CT  06520-8229

Billy Notes:

In 1990, Salovey and Mayer coined the term “Emotional Intelligence” (or EI), describing it as “a form of social intelligence that involves the ability to monitor one’s own and others’ feelings and emotions, to discriminate among them, and to use this information to guide one’s thinking and action.”

Besides Emotional Intelligence, Goodwill and Sincerity are most Essential in Building Friendship.



Alice Chiang, our dear friend and Ladera Neighbor, became 80 years old this Thanksgiving Day, 2023.  Lucille and I were invited to join her Chinese Banquet Lunch Celebration in Midtown San Francisco. As we have both stopped driving a year ago, our No. One Son, Prescott, offered to drive us there from Portola Valley, and our No. Two Son, Gary, was to drive us back with his wife, Marchelle. All five of us went to support the Celebration, for indeed Alice has been a dear old Family Friend. We didn’t want to miss it for any reason.

At the Banquet I presented a short speech – still Lucille, Prescott, Gary, and Marchelle thought it was a shade long. I am quite pleased with my speech however, because it was authentically felt and delivered.  I described how we, indeed, felt about Alice and our relationships by suggesting an adjective for each of the five alphabets from her name A L I C E.  It went like this

A    ADORABLE –  We all truly adore her.

L     LOVING – Her love and caring for us also.

I      INTIMATE – Our Feelings towards each other. Our Deep Bonding.

C     CHRISTIAN – Alice’s Faith and Values. Globally Compassionate.

E     EMERAL – A beautiful Jewel – Beautifully Green forever.

This joyous gathering of Alice’s friends and relatives included John Sieh, Jimmy Hsu, and Billy Lee- sitting together at one table. We three old friends all studied Architecture in U.S. colleges around the same time. We indeed have a special rapport largely due to our common ideal about True and Everlasting Friendships and Yi Chi in Chinese. We truly enjoyed seeing each other again, chatting and laughing together, and even hugging and holding hands lovingly.

From left: Old Friends John Sieh, Jimmy Hsu, & Billy Lee


Maintaining Friendship – Importance of Keeping InTouch

Friendship – Importance of Keeping In Touch – Magic Touches – When, Whom, What, and How ? Approach individuals or Small and Large Groups – Old and New Friends – Widening the Circle – Deepening The Good Feelings. What Gratification! Billy Inquired _________________________________________________________


Maintaining friendships and keeping in touch is indeed crucial for our well-being and personal growth. Here are some thoughts on the importance of keeping in touch, magical touches, and ways to approach individuals or groups:

Importance of Keeping in Touch:

  1. Emotional Support:
  1. Friends provide emotional support during both good and bad times.
  2. Regular communication helps strengthen this support system.
  1. Personal Growth:
  1. Friends can inspire and encourage personal growth.
  2. Sharing experiences and insights can lead to mutual development.
  1. Reducing Isolation:
  1. Regular communication helps combat feelings of isolation.
  2. Knowing that someone cares can have a profound impact on mental health.
  1. Building Trust:
  1. Consistent communication builds trust and deepens the bond between friends.
  2. Trust is the foundation of any strong and lasting friendship.

Magic Touches:

  1. Random Acts of Kindness:
  1. Send unexpected messages of appreciation or encouragement.
  2. Small gestures can have a significant impact.
  1. Surprise Gifts:
  1. Sending surprise gifts or cards shows thoughtfulness.
  2. It doesn’t have to be extravagant; the sentiment matters most.
  1. Celebrating Milestones:
  1. Acknowledge and celebrate your friend’s achievements.
  2. Share in their joy and provide genuine congratulations.
  1. Quality Time:
  1. Sometimes, a simple, quality conversation can be magical.
  2. Be fully present when interacting with your friends.

When, Whom, What, and How?

  1. When to Reach Out:
  1. Regularly check in with friends, even if it’s just a quick message.
  2. Especially during tough times, a simple “How are you?” can make a difference.
  1. Whom to Approach:
  1. Don’t limit yourself to a specific group. Reach out to both old and new friends.
  2. Connect with people who share your interests or values.
  1. What to Share:
  1. Share experiences, thoughts, and feelings.
  2. Be open about your life and encourage your friends to do the same.
  1. How to Approach:
  1. Use a variety of communication methods: texts, calls, video chats.
  2. Tailor your approach to your friend’s preferences and comfort level.

Widening the Circle:

  1. Join Social Activities:
  1. Attend events or groups related to your interests.
  2. This can lead to meeting new people and expanding your circle.
  1. Networking:
  1. Leverage professional networks for both personal and career connections.
  2. Attend meetups or events in your community.

Deepening the Good Feelings:

  1. Express Gratitude:
  1. Regularly express gratitude for your friends.
  2. Let them know how much you value their presence in your life.
  1. Apologize and Forgive:
  1. Be quick to apologize and forgive.
  2. Misunderstandings happen, but resolving them strengthens friendships.
  1. Shared Experiences:
  1. Create and share memorable experiences.
  2. Travel, adventures, or even simple gatherings can deepen bonds.

What Gratification!

  1. Mutual Growth:
  1. Witnessing the growth and success of your friends is immensely gratifying.
  2. Celebrate each other’s achievements and be a source of support.
  1. Meaningful Connections:
  1. Building and maintaining meaningful connections is fulfilling.
  2. It contributes to a sense of belonging and purpose.
  1. Joy in Giving:
  1. The joy of giving, whether through support or shared experiences, is unparalleled.
  2. Knowing you positively impact someone’s life is deeply gratifying.

In conclusion, keeping in touch with friends, both old and new, involves a combination of regular communication, thoughtful gestures, and shared experiences. The gratification comes from the deepening of connections, mutual growth, and the joy found in meaningful friendships.


Billy’s 2023 Thanksgiving Message To His Friends:

Dear All, Again, I wish to express my GRATEFULNESS to you all. For you have TRULY BEEN NICE to me. Wish you All a VERY HAPPY THANKSGIVING and Have a RELAXED & CHEERFUL Breakfast the Day After. Especially enjoy a cup of Tea or Coffee in your Favorite Mug.

Love, Billy  李名信

Photo from Yale & Andover classmate, Norm Allenby, who told Billy about his son’s memorable playdate years ago. The six-year-old little friend arrived at Allenby’s front door and proclaimed ” Be Nice Me”. Billy has embraced these words as his “Golden Rule” in <https://friendshipology.net>


ChatGPT :

Individuals and groups can have a significant impact on each other, whether it’s for good or harm. Here are some ways in which individuals can affect groups and vice versa in both positive and negative ways:

Positive Effects:

  1. Inspiration and Motivation: Individuals who exhibit positive traits and actions can inspire and motivate others within the group to do good. For example, a leader who demonstrates integrity and altruism can encourage their team members to follow suit.
  2. Collaboration: Individuals can bring diverse skills, perspectives, and ideas to a group, enhancing its ability to achieve common goals. Effective collaboration often leads to better outcomes and innovations.
  3. Skill and Knowledge Transfer: An individual with expertise can share their knowledge and skills within a group, facilitating collective learning and growth. This is particularly valuable in educational settings and workplaces.
  4. Leadership: A capable leader can guide a group toward positive outcomes by setting a clear vision, providing direction, and fostering a sense of unity and purpose.
  5. Amplification of Resources: When individuals pool their resources (such as money, time, or labor) within a group, they can collectively accomplish more good. This can manifest in philanthropy, volunteer work, or community projects.

Negative Effects:

  1. Conflict and Discord: Individuals with differing opinions or conflicting interests can create tension within a group. This discord can lead to infighting, reduced cohesion, and hindered progress.
  2. Groupthink: Groups may pressure individuals to conform to prevailing opinions, stifling creativity and critical thinking. This can lead to poor decision-making and missed opportunities.
  3. Misuse of Power: When individuals within a group hold positions of authority, they can abuse their power, leading to discrimination, oppression, or unethical behavior.
  4. Reinforcement of Negative Norms: If a group collectively adopts harmful behaviors or attitudes, individuals may conform to these norms even if they disagree with them, perpetuating harm.
  5. Resource Drain: In some cases, individuals may exploit group resources for personal gain, causing harm to the collective goals and leaving the group less capable of doing good.

It’s essential to recognize that the relationship between individuals and groups is complex, and the impact can vary depending on context, leadership, and the values and goals of both the individuals and the group. Encouraging positive behaviors and open communication within groups while promoting ethical behavior at the individual level can help maximize the potential for doing good and minimize harm.


BILLY: Please expand more on Encouraging Positive Behaviors while promoting ethical behaviors, Cite examples on HOW.


Encouraging positive behaviors and promoting ethical conduct within groups is crucial for creating a healthy and productive environment. Here are some ways to achieve this, along with examples of how to implement them:

  1. Lead by Example:
  1. Example: In a workplace, a manager can demonstrate punctuality, honesty, and respect for others. When employees see their manager exhibiting these behaviors, they are more likely to follow suit.
  1. Establish Clear Values and Expectations:
  1. Example: A sports team can define its values, such as sportsmanship and teamwork, and communicate these values to all members. Regularly reminding team members of these values reinforces their importance.
  1. Provide Training and Education:
  1. Example: An organization can offer diversity and inclusion training to its employees to raise awareness about bias and discrimination and promote a more inclusive workplace.
  1. Reward and Recognize Positive Behavior:
  1. Example: A classroom teacher can praise students for acts of kindness or for helping their peers. This positive reinforcement encourages students to continue these behaviors.
  1. Create a Supportive Environment:
  1. Example: In a community organization, leaders can ensure that there are channels for reporting unethical behavior, such as a confidential hotline. This empowers members to speak up without fear of retaliation.
  1. Foster Open Communication:
  1. Example: Within a family, parents can create a safe space for children to express their thoughts and feelings without judgment. This openness can lead to better understanding and ethical decision-making.
  1. Establish Consequences for Unethical Behavior:
  1. Example: In a professional setting, a company can have a code of conduct and enforce consequences for violations. This discourages unethical behavior and maintains a culture of integrity.
  1. Encourage Collaboration and Empathy:
  1. Example: A non-profit organization working on poverty alleviation can organize team-building activities that require members to work together and understand the challenges faced by those they are trying to help.
  1. Promote Ethical Decision-Making Frameworks:
  1. Example: An academic institution can incorporate ethics courses into its curriculum, teaching students about ethical theories and providing case studies for analysis.
  1. Celebrate Ethical Role Models:
  1. Example: A community can host events or awards to recognize individuals who have made significant contributions to ethical causes, inspiring others to follow their lead.
  1. Encourage Feedback and Continuous Improvement:
  1. Example: A software development team can hold regular retrospectives to discuss project performance and identify areas for improvement, including ethical considerations in decision-making.
  1. Institutionalize Ethical Guidelines:
  1. Example: A government agency can establish policies and procedures that prioritize transparency, accountability, and ethical conduct in all its operations.
  1. Seek External Accountability:
  1. Example: A corporation can invite external audits or evaluations of its ethical practices to ensure objectivity and transparency in assessing its adherence to ethical standards.
  1. Promote Social Responsibility Initiatives:
  1. Example: A company can engage in philanthropic efforts, such as donating a portion of profits to charitable causes, demonstrating its commitment to ethical business practices and social good.

These approaches can be adapted to various contexts and organizations, but the common thread is the emphasis on values, communication, education, and accountability to create a culture that encourages positive and ethical behavior within groups.


BILLY : Please define basic ethical values we all need to learn.


Basic ethical values serve as foundational principles that guide individuals and societies in making moral decisions and engaging in ethical behavior. While specific ethical values may vary across cultures and belief systems, there are several universal ethical values that are widely recognized and considered essential for individuals to learn and uphold:

  1. Respect: Treating others with respect means valuing their inherent worth, opinions, and rights. It involves listening to others, acknowledging their perspectives, and refraining from discrimination or harm.
  2. Honesty: Honesty involves telling the truth, being sincere, and avoiding deception or misleading others. It is fundamental for building trust in personal and professional relationships.
  3. Integrity: Integrity means adhering to a strong moral and ethical code, even when it is challenging or inconvenient. It involves consistency in values and actions and not compromising one’s principles for personal gain.
  4. Compassion: Compassion is the ability to empathize with the suffering and struggles of others. It entails a desire to alleviate their pain or offer support and kindness.
  5. Fairness and Justice: Fairness means treating people impartially and equitably, regardless of their background, characteristics, or circumstances. Justice involves upholding principles of fairness in society and ensuring that individuals are held accountable for their actions.
  6. Responsibility: Responsibility entails being accountable for one’s actions and decisions. It involves fulfilling one’s obligations and considering the consequences of one’s choices on oneself and others.
  7. Empathy: Empathy is the ability to understand and share the feelings and perspectives of others. It is a crucial component of building meaningful relationships and resolving conflicts.
  8. Caring and Kindness: Caring involves showing concern for the well-being of others and taking actions to help and support them. Kindness is the practice of being friendly, considerate, and helpful in interactions with others.
  9. Tolerance and Acceptance: Tolerance is the willingness to accept differences in beliefs, opinions, and lifestyles without prejudice or discrimination. It promotes diversity and inclusivity.
  10. Courage: Courage involves the ability to confront fear, danger, or challenges in order to do what is morally right or just. It often requires standing up for one’s principles, even in the face of adversity.
  11. Responsible Stewardship: Responsible stewardship is the ethical use and conservation of resources, including natural resources and financial assets, for the benefit of present and future generations.
  12. Environmental Consciousness: This value emphasizes the importance of protecting and preserving the environment for the well-being of all living beings and future generations.
  13. Humility: Humility involves recognizing one’s limitations, admitting when one is wrong, and being open to learning and self-improvement. It fosters a sense of modesty and respect for others.
  14. Forgiveness: Forgiveness is the act of letting go of resentment and the desire for revenge when one has been wronged. It promotes healing and reconciliation in relationships.

These basic ethical values provide a moral compass for individuals and communities, helping to guide ethical decision-making, promote harmonious relationships, and contribute to the well-being of society as a whole. Teaching and promoting these values from an early age can help build a more ethical and compassionate society.


“We Can All Be Friends” – my niece Mimi shared with me her awakening experience at her daughter’s wedding – by Billy Lee – Sept. 2023

Mimi is my favorite niece and she often shares her inner thoughts with me. After her daughter’s unforgettable Camp Zerfas Wedding Celebration a month ago, I asked the mother how she felt.

She basically told me that she had a Happy Awakening.  She started with some concern about the final decision that she was to walk her daughter up the aisle instead of the father, her ex-husband who parted with her when the daughter was only an elementary school child. It was a hurtful experience.

Mimi still had some misgivings when all arrived to celebrate. But things turned out well as the entire atmosphere at the 3-Day Wedding Celebration was full of LOVE, JOY, GOODWISHES and GOODWILL.  I personally believe that we all truly loved Mimi’s daughter, Valarie; and she was the JOY and LOVE that generated our Goodwill, and Good Behavior.

But Mimi’s Awakening indeed happened at the Meditation Session led by Stephen who just became her son-in-law. The Loving-Kindness Meditation asked all participants to focus first on someone who was most loving and kind to them, then try to give the same kind of kindness to someone who they may still hold certain misgivings. Amid a rise of an amazing sense of Happiness and Serenity, Mimi felt empathy for her ex-husband and his present wife. Mimi said silently to herself, “ I forgive. We are all part of Valerie’s life, and we can all be friends.”

Mimi also realizes how fortunate it is that she now has her husband Mike, who loves her and Valorie most genuinely and in a most thoughtful way. Yes, Mike, is also my Best Pal in our Friendshipology Exploration.  He is a modest yet most reliable person.

Mike and Mimi at left warmly shook hands with Ray

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This is a very revealing and personal story.  I made sure I had Mimi’s consent before sharing it on this Friendshipology site. What I learned from her story is that LOVE, HAPPINESS. CARING & GRATITUDE CAN OVERCOME MANY MISGIVINGS. LOVE, HAPPINESS, CARING & GRATITUDE CAN GROW FROM ONE TO MANY AND ALSO FROM MANY TO ONE.  Thank you, Mimi.  LOVE YOU !