Immediately after Anne Gate’s Good Wishes, Billy discovered a list 23 Random Social Skills from Paul Sanders who was promoting his book “ Get The Friends You Want”:
- Shaking off the feelings of loneliness or social hesitation,
- Discovering or remembering your value & what you can bring to the table (Why people should hang out with you),
- Knowing where to go to meet new people,
- Reaching out to acquaintances to hang out (even though you haven’t spoken for a while),
- Starting conversations and getting a basic exchange going,
- Keeping conversations going,
- Making random conversations interesting & fun,
- Beyond just talking – connecting (or vibing) with another person,
- Handling a group conversation,
- Finding things in common,
- Using basic humor, alleviating tension, giving off a relaxed vibe,
- Finding opportunities for why you should stay in touch & hang out in the future,
- Exchanging contact information,
- Following up, making plans, having people say “Yes!” and show up to your plans,
- Having a great time with people you meet for the first few times,
- Making friendship “happen” & starting to build trust,
- Introducing people to each other,
- Establishing a social habit with others to solidify the friendship,
- Turning casual friends into close friends,
- Building social circles,
- Turning a casual social circle into a circle of care and support (a group of close friends who have each others’ back),
- Building a professional network that supports your career or business,
- And, Handling the occasional conflict between friends and keeping the drama away.
Simultaneously, a short inspiring poem written especially for me by my very dear friend, James Luce, arrived. James normally writes long deep critical analysis, but he did this special favor for me as he knew that I could only absorb so much at a time.
AN ORGANIC RECIPE FOR LIFE
Jaume Luz
Chef de Cuisine
Fold gently four ingredients into each day.
Reflect on what each ingredient has to say.
Insulate from fear or you’ll burn the crust.
Empathy, Compassion, Joy, and Trust
Need patience to mature and fuse.
Don’t shake, rattle, or abuse.
Sprinkling some sugar into the bowl
Helps to reach your intended goal.
Inhale the aroma of those ingredients blended,
Perpetually the results are splendid.
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