ICAF’s 5th World Children’s Festival 2-4 July 2015 – The National Mall, Washington D.C.

July 2015 , Stephen Smuin, Chris Fiorentini, and myself were invited to participate at ICAF’s 5th World Children’s Festival held at Wahington DC National Mall. We were to conduct a work shop on FRIENDSHIP or simply GOOD FEELINGS. On this weekend celebrating America’s Independence we were going to introduce the significance of Global Friendship and Interdependence.

Dr. Ashfaq Ishfaq who founded ICFA ( International Child Art Foundation ) in Washington DC in April 1997. Came from a privileged family in Pakistan, he received an excellent education in a country where poverty was prevalent, and his early experiences made him aware of the stark inequalities around him which sparked his deep interest in  addressing social issues. After moving to the U.S. to study economics, he worked at the World Bank. However, he came to realize that economic solutions alone were insufficient  to tackle deep rooted problems.

His’s “Ah Ha” moment in founding the International Child Art Foundation (ICAF) came when he was involved in the research that identified a “creativity slump in  U.S. fourth-graders”- led by psychologist E. Paul Torrance. This discovery showed him that schools were failing to inspire and motivate children creatively around that age. He realized that addressing this decline could help children develop empathy and creativity, which are critical for solving social challenges. This epiphany pushed him to shift focus from economic solutions to nurturing creativity and empathy through art programs for children.

Ishaq struggled initially to secure funding for the foundation, as many people were hesitant to support a grand cause centered on children’s art. This difficulty in acquiring financial backing highlights the challenges he faced in convincing potential supporters of the value of creativity in children. While I do not know who were his initial enablers, I have heard that Mrs. Rosaline Carter ( wife of President Jimmy Carter ), was an avid supporter of ICAF, and. ICAF  activities eventually gained recognition, including partnerships with various institutions, such as the World Bank for Disaster Recovery Project. ICAF’s flagship “Arts Olympiad Program ”  also gained recognition from U.S. Olympic Committee.

ICAF’s ChildArt Magazine Project is presently gaining momentum and making a significant impact globally. The magazine, which has been published quarterly since 1998, is dedicated to fostering creativity, self-discovery, and global education in young readers. It features themes that engage children in critical thinking and empathy, such as creativity, human security, and mindfulness. With nearly one million readers globally, including children, parents, and educators, ChildArt  has now become an unique and influential platform for young creative youths.

Recent issues, such as one focusing on neuroaesthetics in collaboration with the International Arts + Mind Lab, have explored cutting-edge intersections between art and brain science. These efforts underscore the magazine’s broad appeal and potential for future growth. ChildArt  provides a valuable educational tool, and its role in shaping young minds seems set to expand as arts education becomes increasingly recognized for its role in social, emotional, and cognitive development.

As the magazine continues to innovate with themes that resonate globally, it is poised for further success, especially as more educators and institutions recognize the power of arts in fostering creativity and empathy among children.

D. Paul Schafer, founder and director, World Culture Project wrote the following about Dr.Ishfaq :

 “ I have worked in the arts and cultural field for more than fifty years and have the greatest admiration for Ashfaq Ishaq and the remarkable role he has played in providing children from all part of the world with opportunities to enjoy the arts and athletics in real terms and learn from them what is of quintessential importance in the development of their lives and personalities as well as all the creativity, happiness, and fulfilment that can be derived from this. As a result of his tenacious commitment to the creation and development of the International Child Art Foundation (ICAF), countless children throughout the world are able to look to the future with optimism, enthusiasm, and excitement rather than pessimism, anxiety, and apprehension. Very few organizations in the world are able to match this, which is a tribute to Ashfaq’s fortitude, vision, and ability to produce concrete results under very difficult circumstances for future generations of our children when it counts the most.”

I consider Dr. Ishfaq my mentor even though he is much younger than I. As an avid member of USCPFA ( US-China People’s Friendship Association) I sincerely hope that China will support his Project which indeed is a project for Long-term Global Peace, Joy, and Friendship. I also hope that my personal friends will check out < ICAF.org > and help support and sustain Dr. Ishfaq’s amazing efforts and achievements.

In 2014, Billy introduced Dr. Ishfaq to Mr. Yang Jie Chi. China’s Ambassdor to U.S., at the 1990 Institute sponsored “Chinese Children’s Art on Environment Exhibit” in Washington D.C..

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Many years ago, upon graduation from college, I worked at a firm building mass spectrometry equipment. An analytical tool used to calculate the exact molecular weight of the sample. It was as foreign to me as my cubicle mate who worked next to me. Luis was simultaneously a professional football player for the San Jose Saber Cats. 

My earlier years always found me participating in all sports which I played well but only as an amateur. Whether it was football, basketball, volleyball, baseball, bowling, tennis, or frisbee, I had the hand-eye coordination for it but never the opportunity to make a team because of required skill level, size, time, opportunities or money. So, I didn’t really understand what constitutes a professional athlete. 

Luis kicked field goals and kick-offs. At 6’ 2” and 195lbs, he was a giant compared to my 5’9, 140lb frame. Because of my love for sports, we shared much in common as we learned together the mysteries of our company’s products and of each other. It was fun working next to someone of similar age but with very different background. He is Mexican and raised quite differently than my Chinese upbringing. Luis was not your typical jock and certainly his friends were also quite different than mine, but deep down inside, we were both similar in being inquisitive, young, and optimistic. Each lunch period when I eagerly started to take care of my stomach, Luis was out for his daily run. This 195-pound man ran almost the entire lunch period, I was indeed puzzled. When he returned, it was always a large healthy salad and some protein. It was never junk food like mine. Of course, practice took place several days a week after work and his discipline was exceptional. We often talked about proper eating and exercise programs. We also shared our dreams of someday owning a home, getting married, landing a big job and getting rich. 

Taking care of his body was always a priority. We became good friends at work discussing all subjects on sports and of course, his team’s prowess in the last game. I was a couple years older than Luis, helping him with the job but he taught me from an early age, whether you are a professional athlete or not, one must care for one’s body. Well, it is now almost 40 years later and his words still resonate with me. 

Cross culture relationships are both meaningful and enriching. We have to be opened to it and to each other. Diverse friendships can help people to removed biases and improve how we interact with people of different backgrounds. 

“Every day and Every Person is unique and special”.

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Amy Wen Du was originally from Beijing and has lived in Canada for 10 years, working as a Chinese language teacher. She was a Chinese language and literature teacher in China and a passionate translator from English to Chinese.

the “Farewell song”（“送别”）

As the saying goes, music is the world language without boundaries and conveys universal emotions and feelings. Here is an amazing example of it.

More than 100 years ago, three musicians from the USA, Japan, and China composed three lyrical songs to one tune and they are still widely known.

In 1868, an American medical doctor and composer John P. Ordway wrote his lyrics “Dreaming of Home and Mother”, a popular sentimental song from Civil War era.

In 1907, Japanese music teacher and lyricist Kyūkei Indō (犬童球渓) composed his song” Ryoshū” (旅愁, meaning “Yearning (for home) in travelling”) to melody of  the lyrics” Dreaming of Home and Mother”. Ryoshū has since been very popular in Japan. It was selected as one of the 100 Best Known Japanese Songs in 2007.

In 1915, Chinese artist, composer, lyricist and Buddhist monk Li Shutong (23 October 1880 – 13 October 1942, 李叔同, Hong Yi 弘一, most commonly known by his Buddhist name ) wrote his famous romantic ballad, the “Farewell song”（“送别”）to the melody of the song “Dreaming of Home and Mother”. He composed the song at the time when he sadly saw his best friend off. Li was initially introduced to this song while studying in Japan, in the form of the Japanese song “ Ryoshū ” (旅愁）.

The melody of the mid-19th century song “Dreaming of Home and Mother”  even rang through the 2022 Beijing Winter Olympics’ closing ceremony as a farewell song.

The lyrics in Chinese of 送别 are as follow:

长亭外，古道边，芳草碧连天，
Cháng tíng wài, gǔ dào biān, fāng cǎo bì lián tiān.
Outside the long pavilion, along the ancient route, fragrant green grass joins the sky,

晚风拂柳笛声残，夕阳山外山。
Wǎn fēng fú liǔ dí shēng cán, xì yáng shān wài shān.
The evening wind caressing willow trees, the sound of the flute piercing the heart, sunset over mountains beyond mountains.

天之涯，地之角，知交半零落，
Tiān zhī yá, dì zhī jiǎo, zhī jiāo bàn líng luò.
At the brink of the sky, at the corners of the earth, my familiar friends wander in loneliness and far from home,

一瓢浊酒尽余欢，今宵别梦寒。
Yī piáo zhuó jiǔ jìn yú huān, jīn xiāo bié mèng hán.
One more ladle of wine to conclude the little happiness that remains; tonight my dreams of parting leave me cold.

长亭外，古道边，芳草碧连天，
Outside the long pavilion, along the ancient route, fragrant green grass joins the sky,

问君此去几时来？来时莫徘徊。
Wèn jūn cǐ qù jǐ shí lái? Lái shí mò pái huái.
I ask of you, as you go this time, when are you to return? When it’s time to come please don’t hesitate.

天之涯，地之角，知交半零落，
At the brink of the sky, at the corners of the earth, familiar friends wander in loneliness and far from home,

人生难得是欢聚，唯有别离多。
Rén shēng nán dé shì huān jù, wéi yǒu bié lí duō.
In life it is happy reunions that are rare; most often we bid farewell.

天之涯，地之角，知交半零落，
At the brink of the sky, at the corners of the earth, familiar friends wander in loneliness and far from home,

人生难得是欢聚，唯有别离多。
In life it is happy reunions that are rare; most often we bid farewell.

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Billy also learned the following about the American, Dr. John P. Ordway from Chat Open Ai :

John P. Ordway (1824–1880) was an American composer, doctor, and music publisher known for his contributions to the minstrel tradition and 19th-century popular music. One of his most famous songs is “Dreaming of Home and Mother”, which became quite popular during and after the American Civil War. The song reflects themes of nostalgia and the emotional longing for home and family.

Here are some famous lyrics from “Dreaming of Home and Mother”:

Chorus: “Dreaming of home, dear old home,
Home of my childhood and mother;
Oft when I wake ’tis sweet to find
I’ve been dreaming of home and mother.”

The song resonates with feelings of loss and the comforting memories of home and maternal love, which was common in songs of the era, especially among soldiers and those far from home.

“Dreaming of Home and Mother” was actually adapted from a tune composed by Sir Henry Bishop, an English composer. The original tune is from Bishop’s 1823 opera Clari, or the Maid of Milan, specifically from the famous aria “Home! Sweet Home!”

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These past several years, I have been researching on the Meaning of Friendship.  From Friendship I skipped to

Empathy, but at last I came to realize that the key to building good relationships across different cultures is indeed in

Cultivating Compassion, Love, and Caring. As a retired architect and architecture lecturer, I posed this question to

myself, and my colleagues: “Can Architecture Induce Compassion? “ These past many months, I focused on creating a

photo collage notebook to record what I have learned in my research and hope to expand this search with my friends

around the world. The attached slides, are the first batch of photos to set my course:                           

Start with Our love for children. Our innate good feelings for Humanity.

So many people today are seeking Compassion through Mindful Meditation – singularly, by two, or in groups. There are spectacular sufferings around the world due to War, Natural Disasters, Famine, Epidemics, etc. There are also deep but less spectacular sufferings –  the aged, and disabled, the homeless etc.. Even close to us, there are those who suffer from personal problems and misfortunes – few terribly stressed and some deeply distressed.  Yet, we know there are people who do care Mother Teresa, Refugee Relief soldiers, individual and group volunteers. Habitat For Humanity is a notable example. So we have Compassion and Hope, and we can find encouragement from nature, and we are so moved by the hope reflected in the eyes of those still struggling through indescribable difficulties.

But, what about Architecture Inducing Compassion?

I accept the definition of Compassion to be : “Realizing the suffering of others and then taking actions to help.”  I accept the Definition of Architecture to broadly be: “The Art and Practices in Designing Buildings”.  Indeed, in essence I think Architecture is Problem Solving, and producing Extra Magic in improving our lives and in lifting our Spirits.  Having been trained at so-called prestigious schools and professional offices, I was brain-washed to always try for the extra Magic . Where is the Poetry? 

Where is the Finesse?  Where are the Truly Beneficial Impacts – physically as well as spiritually ?

When considering the two words ‘Architecture’  and ‘Compassion’ together, I wondered if it was a ‘Chicken & Egg ‘question . It is clear that Architects produce Architecture which may or may not induce Compassion. Furthermore, the induced Compassion may only be an Inspirational Feeling which may or may not lead to actual Compassionate Deeds. I myself surely need to cultivate my inner Compassion first and hope to deliver Architecture that can induce further Compassion as result.

While doing some research on Meditation and Mindfulness, I discovered a Five-step Mindful Meditation from an amazing mindfulness facilitator. I was told that Mindfulness focuses on Breathing, Meditation involves Thinking, and Neuropsychology has confirmed much of the validity of her recommended methodology. Her Five-Step Exercise involves the following:

1      Proper Sitting Position/ Breathing steadily in and out/ Feel calmness / Clear your Mind

2      Continue breathing  in and out, but focus of someone who had been most kind and caring for you. Capture and enjoy this feeling of Love and Care.  That feeling is truly Golden.

3      Adjust your mind and try to transmit this Feeling of Love and Caring to someone else in your life.- best to someone you think is in need of support and compassion. Continue breathing until you feel you have delivered.

4      This time try to transmit this Feeling of Love and Caring to a small group of people – maybe members from your family, your neighborhood or community. Continue breathing in and out until you feel you have done your best.

5      Try further to reach out compassionately to an even larger group of people whom you do not even know personally – like war refugees, displaced immigrants etc. Try your best.  Practice makes perfect.

I have indeed tried this exercise and found the first three steps working powerfully. On the last two steps, I am still practicing – practicing conscientiously.

Yes, many compassionate Architects and Designers around the world are doing ‘Caring Architecture’ for the benefit of the needy.  For Children: safe and cheerful schools. For Aged and Sick: healthful accommodations.  For Communities: social connecting spaces, For the Poor: decent low cost housing. For the Cities: convenient transportation and safe parks and cultural amenities. For refugees: respectful temporary shelters. For human spirit: churches, mosques, temples etc..

To create “Architecture which can induce Compassion”, it’s not easy ! ! !   I have selected two famous edifices here which may represent shiny examples: The Cologne Cathedral in Germany and Hagia Sophia in Istanbul, Turkey. The former represents the culture of the West. Forceful verticality initiated by pointed Gothic arches reinforce shafts of light that uplift the spirit from us tiny human figures. People pray with their eyes closed but heads lifted. Pray to God in the Sky or Heaven- ask forgiveness for Self then love for Neighbors. Hagia Sophia represents Mid-East Culture – a cross between East and West. The lofty spherical dome gives a uniting umbrella space. Rich mosaics, sparkled by spotty light openings reflect the rich variety of possibilities of Hope. People pray by the humble “five points touching the ground.” The Muslim philosophy stresses Common Wellbeing of Mankind. While the architectural styles are different, in both cases AWE is created by Exaggerated Scale and Deft Proportions.

I found two examples that illustrate AWE thru Tranquility : The Zen Rock Garden in Kyoto, Japan and Salk Institute in La Jolla, Ca. USA.  In Kyoto, it’s the pure and intense Abstraction of Nature that pulls one’s heart and mind. The stillness of the rocks and sand – strategically composed –  induces the Quietness essential for Contemplation. AWE via Tranquility . Such is Zen.  The magic granite plaza at Salk Institute is actually the collaboration of Louis Khan and Mexican architect Luis Barragan. The gurgling channel of water brings life to the plaza. Pointing towards the Ocean and Sunset on the West, the magic reflection of the water gives the whole complex the reputation, ‘Temple to Nature’. It has provided Inspiration to many esteemed Salk Institute Scientists – including one very famous Neuroscientist who was especially enthralled.

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I like to study the “Magic and Finesses” Architects and Designers have successfully employed. I have selected four examples here to share with you . Let’s see, where lies their Magic. What were their special Finesses?

1      I.M.Pei ‘s Miho Museum near Kyoto, Japan

The unique Magic is the Entrance Tunnel.  As in common Meditation Practice, it’s the most important step of Clearing and Framing one’s mind to be ready to appreciate yet more important features coming.  It’s manipulation of Sequence, Pace, Time, Light, and Psychological anticipations.  Pei’s Exquisite Detailing focusing on subtle Transitioning –in this case, the web sculptures at each end of the tunnel – represent transitioning the transition. A skillful Touch !

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2      Maya Lin ‘s  Vietnam Memorial, in Washington, D.C.

The Magic here is the simultaneous sensation of Sadness and Glory. The Finesse is in the positioning of the V-shape wall – one arm pointing to Washington Memorial Tower, the other towards Lincoln. Pressing the wall into the ground causes a sense of depression. Looking for the lost relative’s name engraved on the reflective black granite wall, one sees so many other names , and one sees Self reflected – Feeling robbed as well as Feeling Proud.

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3      Carlos Scarpa ‘s Meditation Pavilion, Brion Cemetery, Italy

Weather streaked concrete planes cheered surprisingly by added lines and dots of mosaic tiles. Ethereal light mixed  with very earthy feeling , water lily pond and clinging vines – color Green –awakening window openingreminding of History, make this site special for Pondering Life thru Meditation.  Scarpa’s seemingly random geometric stone sculpting grab visitors firmly but gently.  Amazing Magic derives from his artful sculpting carving  and his let freed geometry. There is always a magic twist here and there.     

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4 Michael Murphy – Mass Design Group – Boston, USA – Works in Boston, Alabama, USA & Rwanda, Africa

Compassion is clearly reflected in Mass Design Group’s Mission statement, their practice, and their Architecturalcreations.  Their holistic approach brings Innovation anHuman spirit together. There is an earnest interest in indigenous cultures and cross-cultural needs, aspirations and inter-connectedness. The globe-shaped pavilion in a  Bostonian Park is not only unique, and inspiring, it is beautifully detailed with Bostonian dedication.  The school and health clinic in Rwanda wisely use soft pastel colored background to sprout the residents’ more colorful attires. The soft gentleness enhances the open spaces to breath Joy & Good Health.  Where is Magic here? I believe it’s from the inner personality of this special Architect.

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For us Architects to improve our general knowledge and capabilities, we should collaborate with and learn from psychologists who study environmental impacts on human emotions.  There has already been much study on Psychology of Color, of Light, of Sound, of Proximity, of Weather and Temperature, of Motions and Pace, of Lines, Shapes, Surfaces, and Symbols, on Denseness vs Sparseness, Simplicity vs Complexity, Clarity vs Confusion etc. etc. . In general, we should keep sharp our Experiential sensitivities and be able to affect people’s emotional needs via design.  The most influential Architecture Professor in my life was indeed Vincent Scully at Yale. The first assignment he gave our Architecture class was to record a morning trip from the dorm to the classroom. The first assigned reading was the famous Steen E. Rasmussen’s “Experiencing Architecture”.

Indeed, the purpose of this Special Research Exercise is not just for more learning, but to raise ‘Compassion Conscientiousness’  among all my friends – old and new.  I now earnestly propose a ‘Participatory Research and Design Process’ to engage you all on this question :“ Can Architecture Induce Compassion ?”.

All You Non Architect Friends, can you share with me :your personal inspired moments with photos, ideas, and questions?

You, Architectural Professionals, please enlighten me on any Special Design Magics and Finesses we all should know about.  

You, Psychologists Friends, we have much to learn from you. Study of Architecture truly involves understanding People –their emotions, their behaviors – your area of expertise.

You,  Architecture Students, try a design exercise on one of the following:

 1)   An interior Room or Space for Contemplation,

 2)   An exterior pavilion, pool, or garden for Contemplation

 3) An enlightening Design Object, be it a Water Fountain, a decorative ornament for your bedroom, or something to wear like a wrist-band or Necklace, etc.

Experiment with Absolute Precision and Clarity or Maze thru Haze. Find Essential Magic in different materials. Experiment with Shades of Colors and Light. Pay attention to Water, Wind, Time of the day, and Open Sky. Think and Feel Vertically, Horizontally, and Diagonally in Depth.  Find the sparks which connect to your Emotions. Find and deliver inspiration with Imagination and Finesse.

Indeed, a Non-Architect friend alerted me to a unique complex, which AIA 2006 Gold Medalist, Architect Antoine Predock from Albuquerque, New Mexico designed for UC Davis not too long ago. Nicked named, “The Darth Star”, this Social Science and Humanities Building is best known as a “Maze”. The design was purposed to be confusing. Visitors are intentionally forced to talk to someone to find out how to get to where they need to go. Often doorways you need to pass through are locked – forcing one to find alternatives. The intention was to force interactions and social connections. Supposedly, through helping each other, deeper bonding is created.  It sure is a courageous social -science experiment by the University. I admit that I have not yet visited that campus or done any in-depth social impact research on the users. I am, however, much impressed by their innovative – ‘out-of-the-box’ kind of search approach.

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My SEARCH will continue, but I hope to have your help to make this a collaborative/ participatory research effort.

May I conclude my TALK today by sharing with you just a few of my main thoughts ?  I like to quote two of my favorite architects: Zaha Hadid and William McDonough.  Zaha Hadid said to us: “ Architecture should be able to Excite you, Calm you, and Make you think. “, and William McDonough, a leading architect in Sustainable Architecture, said : “ Design  is inherently Optimistic ! It is Power!”

On “Architecture Inducing Compassion”, I firmly believe that

this is an important research challenge and opportunity. Let us cultivate our personal Compassion Skills.  Commit our Will and Diligence. With Creativity and Power, we Architects, design with Compassion and Finesse!

indeed, each of us can ask, “Can my own work or profession help induce Compassion? ”

Finally, I say to you: THANKS!  – with a Handshake & Firm Squeeze; a Hug & Gentle Press; a Smile & a Well-meaning Wink, and touching my Heart with my right hand and then stretching out both arms high and wide, I wish you all, LOVE, KINDNESS, CREATIVITY & PEACE !

Cheers always !

Your Friend,

Billy William Ming-Sing Lee  李名信

Retired Architect

271 West Floresta Way, Portola Valley, Ca. 94028, U.S.A. <WilliamMSLee@gmail.com

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https://friendshipology.net

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In one beautifully and artistically composed page with attractive photographs, Ladera Crier presented:

How a Pattern on the Sidewalk Inspired a Very Special Book “ Seeing Hearts” by Dani Chammas

One day, about four years ago, on what otherwise could have been described an “uneventful” neighborhood walk, the Chamry Sisters  ( Zeina 9, Zoe 6. and Sami 4 ) noticed a heart in cement of a sidewalk. Filled with excitement, they all took turns taking pictures of that heart.

Every day since that day, the girls have been searching for hearts throughout the world around them—at home, at school, in nature… some even in Ladera. It is not uncommon for their family activities to be punctuated by the comment, “A heart! I found a heart!” The excitement associated with these moments has persisted through time.

Wanting to share their joy with the world, the girls began collecting pictures of these hidden hearts with the dream of one day using them to create a book to inspire the world. At last “Seeing Hearts” got published and they hope it will MAKE RIPPLES  and add Beauty and Fun to our world!

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Billy was so Inspired, he immediately wrote to the Ladera Crier’s Editors:

Dear Crier Team,

Thank you for publishing another inspiring issue of Ladera Crier. This time I am especially impressed by the three Chamry sisters who   co-authored “SEEING HEARTS”. It’s simply MOVING. I like to thank them and encourage them to carry on and MAKE WIDER RIPPLES around  the World as they grow older. Since I do not have their email address,  will you kindly deliver my message to them, and indeed I thank you for introducing ZZ&S to our Life in Ladera.

Dear, Zena, Zoe, and Sami,

You have added FUN, JOY, and LOVE, into my life in Ladera. This 92 year old Ladera neighbor of yours truly admires what you are doing. I wish you the very best in promoting a rippling effect around this world. I came to America from China when I was 14, and in trying to make Friends in a new country, I worked hard at how to bond with others Heart to Heart. I have made many good friends, and in fact I have kept in touch with many of my old classmates from Phillips Academy Andover and Yale College. Very recently I was mentioned in Yale Alumni Class 1955 news: It noted :

“Billy Lee sends his cheerful news: While seeking the Fountain of Youth

around the world, he accidentally fell into an Ocean of Joy, Beauty, and Love.

Yes they are all around us. Just See, Seek, Savor, and Enjoy with True Heart.”

Cheers, Hope to become your FUN OLD LADERA FRIEND !

Billy Lee-  271 West Floresta Way Portola Valley, Ca. 94028

<https;//friendshipology.net>

Indeed, Billy wishes to introduce The Chamry Sisters and their “Seeing Hearts” book to his good friends at All China’s Women’s Federation and China National Children’s Center in Beijing where years ago Billy conducted “Heart to Heart “ Friendship Connecting between children from US and China via The 1990 Institute. He thinks that Dr. Ashfaq  Ishaq , Director of ICAF ( International Child Art Foundation in Washington DC } should know about our amazing Ladera Sisters as well.

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The first Ming’s Clambake gathering took place in 1995 at Lincoln Center in New York City. Initially conceived as an annual portfolio review for young stage designers, it was created by Ming Cho Lee, a celebrated set designer and longtime professor at the Yale School of Drama -with indispensable help from his life partner and wife Betsy. The goal of the event was to provide emerging designers with a space to showcase their work to seasoned professionals, fostering a sense of community and mentorship that spanned multiple institutions and generations of designers

The clambake’s informal setting, paired with the serious artistic discussions that took place, quickly became a favorite among participants, solidifying its place as an annual tradition that continued for more than two decades.

On average, Ming’s Clambake attracted between 100 to 200 attendees each year, consisting of both seasoned professionals and emerging stage designers. This included friends, colleagues, and students of Ming Cho Lee, many of whom were part of the broader theater and design communities. The event typically lasted for one day, often involving portfolio reviews followed by social gatherings where participants could interact informally.

The clambake brought together students and faculty from prominent design schools, most notably the Yale School of Drama, where Ming Cho Lee taught for nearly 50 years. Other institutions that regularly participated included:

• New York University Tisch School of the Arts
• Carnegie Mellon University School of Drama
• California Institute of the Arts (CalArts)
• University of California, San Diego (UCSD)
• Northwestern University

These schools represent some of the leading stage design programs in the U.S., known for producing talented scenographers, lighting designers, and other theater professionals. The clambake created a cross-institutional platform where designers from these schools could present their work and receive feedback from industry veterans. It also involved collaboration with professional theater organizations such as the Metropolitan Opera, Guthrie Theater, Lincoln Center Theater, and the Public Theater, all of which were frequent partners of Ming Cho Lee.

The consistency of this annual event over many years helped strengthen the relationships between these institutions and foster a wider sense of community within the design world. Many participants who attended year after year developed long-term professional networks and personal friendships, cementing the clambake’s role in building a supportive ecosystem for stage designers.

Entertainment and Uplifting the Spirit:

Beyond the portfolio reviews and professional critiques, the clambake often included social elements designed to foster camaraderie and uplift spirits. These could range from live music performances, such as those by pianist Richard Lee, to readings of “Ming-isms”—witty sayings and life lessons from Ming Cho Lee that were often humorous and inspirational​.

These elements made the event not just about work, but about celebration, personal growth, and shared artistic passion.

The gatherings were known for their informal tone, creating a comfortable space where attendees could share stories and bond over food, art, and mutual admiration. Many attendees have expressed how Ming’s Clambake became a rare opportunity to step out of the pressures of professional life and simply enjoy being part of a creative community.

Yes, clams were indeed served at Ming’s Clambake, lending the event its quirky name. While the event was primarily a professional and artistic gathering, the serving of clams and other seafood became a lighthearted tradition, contributing to the casual, convivial atmosphere. The name “Clambake” was likely chosen because it evoked an image of a relaxed, communal outdoor event, where friends and colleagues come together.

General Reactions:

The reactions from attendees over the years were overwhelmingly positive. Participants often remarked on the sense of inclusivity and mentorship that permeated the event. Younger designers appreciated the opportunity to have their work critiqued in a constructive, supportive environment, while more established professionals enjoyed the opportunity to mentor the next generation. Many saw the clambake as a critical networking event, but also as a place where friendships and long-lasting collaborations were forged.

The combination of food, art, and informal dialogue helped lift the spirits of all who attended, reinforcing the strong bonds within the stage design community and creating lasting memories. The atmosphere of openness and mutual respect left many attendees feeling both inspired and rejuvenated after each gathering.

Ming’s Clambake has long symbolized a unique blend of friendship, mentorship, and creative inspiration, rooted in Ming Cho Lee’s approach to nurturing community among theater designers. The 2022 celebration at the Jack H. Scribal Center for the Performing Arts was no exception. It brought together a cross-section of Lee’s extended “family” — friends, colleagues, and students from his decades-long career in set design and education. The event was filled with moving tributes, shared memories, and reflections that celebrated not just his professional achievements but also the deep camaraderie and friendships he fostered.     For more details, you can explore the event program and related content from  PLSN Magazine and Katherine Lerner Lee

Ming Cho Lee awarded the National Arts Award at the White House  2002

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By Mike Crisp –  September 2024

  For the past 50+ years, our family has been fortunate to live in a community that fosters friendship. We understand that we live in a bubble of educated and accomplished individuals. However, that doesn’t fully explain why our small (575 homes) community is such a special place to live. Part of the answer may be that most streets are self-contained cul-de-sacs where it is simple to organize and attend a street party. Also, a cul-de-sac makes it easy for neighbors to truly know each other.  

  Then there is the reality that because our community is self-contained (with a single entrance and exit), we have a common identity. We have a recreation center that provides a pool and bar-b-que grills, as well as tennis, bocce ball and volleyball courts. There is also a field where dog-lovers meet to exercise their pups. Also there are a series of walking paths that terminate in a small shopping center with restaurants, a coffee shop, grocery store, bank, gardening and gift shop and mailing facility. This ensures friends, neighbors and strangers will meet and interact on a daily basis. Finally, there is a community directory and email list-serve where folks can ask for help, volunteer help, donate items that are no longer needed or raise concerns that impact the community. Each month a Newsletter titled The Ladera Crier is published with the slogan, “all the news that is fun to print”. Over time, Ladera has become a melting pot of races, cultures and beliefs that has also helped strengthen the community. 

All of the above provides an environment that encourages friendship to bloom. It does not guarantee it, however. My belief is that most families select Ladera by choice, understanding the benefit of being a part of something special. If you ask people of my generation – what is more important – professional or financial status – or friendship? The answer will always be friendship. As my Dad often said, “there is no honor being the richest person in the cemetery”.  Ladera is not perfect, but for us, it has been a wonderful place to live and raise a family.

Michael Crisp Born in Kentucky. Graduate of Colgate University (1959) with a Philosophy major. Coast Guard Lieutenant (jg) (1959-62); Editor-in-Chief, McGraw-Hill (1962-69); Vice-President and Publisher, Science Research Associates (1970-85); Founder, CEO and Chairman Crisp Learning (1985-2003 )Married to Leslie (1965) – three children (Michael, Jennifer and Brooke) – 9 grandchildren.  Their favorit companion is of course their Dog , Sara – short for Serendipity.

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Recently, I was at a party hosted by one of my co-workers from Precita Eyes Muralists, when she made a joke about feeling bad for not inviting our 80-year-old boss Susan Cervantes to the party. We all laughed, thinking of how she would have gotten everyone out of their seats to dance before drinking everyone under the table. Sadly though, most of the other 20-something party goers would have found it strange that an apparently random old lady was at what was supposed to be a cool art party.

Talking across a counter recounting things from yesterday to 15 years ago. Presenting a mural proposal to the community – the lead artist is 20 and the assistant is 45. At a park, a mom and child take turns spray-painting a temporary wall. At Precita Eyes Muralists, a non-profit muralist company based in San Francisco’s Mission District, those of all ages work together every day for one specific goal – creating art. It is truly an environment where knowledge and friendship is freely exchanged, and everyone can learn something new from one another, regardless of age.

Intergenerational Friendships are the bases of all communities. Knowing how to interact with people of any age is an important skill to develop, and has sadly atrophied over the years due to the disappearances of 3rd spaces – places that people can go to that are not home or work/school. Thankfully, Precita Eyes is still a beloved 3rd space where curious teenagers and Urban Youth Art students from 10 years ago can bump into each other and talk about art together. Every day when I walk into work, I meet someone new, someone who I might have not talked to if I wasn’t in this space. Gabrielle Moreta – Assistant to Susan Cervantes

PRECITA EYES MURALISTS  an unique Community led by Susan Cervates    www.precitaeyes.org

Susan Cervantes is an influential muralist and the founder of Precita Eyes Muralists, a community-based mural organization in San Francisco, established in 1977. A prominent figure in the Chicano art movement, Cervantes has dedicated her life to creating and preserving public murals that reflect the cultural diversity, history, and struggles of marginalized communities. Her work focuses on the power of public art to inspire social change, foster community pride, and serve as a visual record of collective experiences. Cervantes has been instrumental in leading collaborative projects, teaching mural-making techniques, and mentoring artists across generations. Through Precita Eyes, she has facilitated the creation of over 400 murals, transforming public spaces into vibrant canvases that celebrate identity, heritage, and social justice

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ChatGPT: A sense of belonging is indeed a fundamental human need, deeply intertwined with our overall well-being and happiness. Good friends play a crucial role in fulfilling this need by providing various forms of positive support and avoiding negative behaviors that can harm the relationship. Here’s a detailed look at what good friends can do for each other and what they should avoid:

What Good Friends Can Do for Each Other:

1. Provide Love and Affection:
   • Show genuine care and concern.
   • Express love through words, actions, and gestures.
2. Offer Emotional Support:
   • Listen attentively and empathetically.
   • Validate each other’s feelings and experiences.
   • Offer comfort during difficult times.
3. Give Practical Assistance:
   • Help with tasks and responsibilities.
   • Offer advice and solutions when appropriate.
   • Be there during emergencies or crises.
4. Encourage Personal Growth:
   • Motivate each other to pursue goals and dreams.
   • Celebrate successes and achievements together.
   • Provide constructive feedback in a supportive manner.
5. Promote a Sense of Security:
   • Be reliable and dependable.
   • Maintain confidentiality and trust.
   • Stand up for each other in difficult situations.
6. Share Joy and Fun:
   • Engage in enjoyable activities together.
   • Create positive and memorable experiences.
   • Laugh and have fun, boosting each other’s spirits. Help others make Friends.

What Good Friends Should Avoid:

1. Critical Judgments:
   • Avoid harsh criticisms or negative evaluations.
   • Focus on understanding rather than judging.
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2. Dismissal:
   • Do not belittle or invalidate each other’s feelings and opinions.
   • Show respect and acknowledge each other’s perspectives.
3. Bashing:
   • Refrain from speaking negatively or gossiping about each other.
   • Support each other’s reputation and dignity.
4. Rejection:
   • Avoid excluding or ignoring each other.
   • Foster inclusion and acceptance within the friendship.
5. Manipulation:
   • Do not use guilt, coercion, or pressure to control the other person.
   • Respect each other’s autonomy and decisions.
6. Neglect:
   • Make time for each other and maintain regular contact.
   • Show interest in each other’s lives and well-being.

By focusing on these positive actions and avoiding negative behaviors, friends can create a strong, supportive, and lasting bond that significantly contributes to their sense of belonging and overall happiness.

ChatGPT

Human relationships are multifaceted and deeply rooted in various emotional and psychological needs. Here are some key elements that touch, inspire, and form the foundation of trust, bonding, faith, commitment, and devotion:

Essential Needs, Wants, Hopes, and Cares

1. Emotional Connection:
   • Empathy: Understanding and sharing another person’s feelings.
   • Validation: Acknowledging and affirming someone’s emotions and experiences.
   • Emotional Support: Being there for someone in times of need, providing comfort and reassurance.
2. Trust:
   • Reliability: Being dependable and consistent in actions and words.
   • Transparency: Open and honest communication, sharing thoughts and feelings.
   • Integrity: Adhering to moral and ethical principles, being trustworthy and honest.
3. Bonding:
   • Shared Experiences: Creating and cherishing memories together.
   • Mutual Respect: Valuing each other’s opinions, boundaries, and individuality.
   • Physical Affection: Non-verbal expressions of love and care, such as hugs, kisses, and touch.
4. Faith:
   • Belief in Each Other: Having confidence in the other person’s intentions and abilities.
   • Supportive Environment: Encouraging and uplifting each other, fostering growth and self-improvement.
   • Forgiveness: Letting go of grudges and past mistakes, allowing the relationship to heal and move forward.
5. Commitment:
   • Dedication: Prioritizing the relationship and putting in the necessary effort to maintain it.
   • Loyalty: Standing by each other through good and bad times, demonstrating unwavering support.
   • Future Planning: Making plans together and working towards shared goals and dreams.
6. Devotion:
   • Selflessness: Putting the needs and happiness of the other person above one’s own.
   • Sacrifice: Being willing to make personal sacrifices for the well-being of the relationship.
   • Unconditional Love: Loving without conditions, accepting the other person as they are.

Key Factors that Lead to Strong Human Connections

1. Communication:
   • Active Listening: Paying full attention to the speaker, showing interest and understanding.
   • Expressiveness: Clearly articulating thoughts and feelings, avoiding misunderstandings.
   • Conflict Resolution: Addressing disagreements constructively, finding common ground.
2. Mutual Effort:
   • Reciprocity: Balancing give and take in the relationship, ensuring both parties contribute.
   • Shared Responsibilities: Working together towards common tasks and goals.
3. Common Values and Interests:
   • Alignment: Sharing similar beliefs, values, and interests, which strengthens the connection.
   • Respect for Differences: Appreciating and respecting each other’s unique perspectives and differences.
4. Personal Growth:
   • Encouragement: Supporting each other’s personal development and self-improvement.
   • Adaptability: Being willing to grow and change together, adjusting to new circumstances.

Inspiring and Meaningful Connections

• Acts of Kindness: Small, thoughtful gestures that show care and consideration.
• Quality Time: Spending meaningful time together, engaging in activities that both enjoy.
• Expressions of Gratitude: Regularly expressing appreciation and thankfulness for each other.

Human relationships thrive on a delicate balance of these elements, fostering a sense of belonging, security, and fulfillment. Building and maintaining strong connections require continuous effort, empathy, and genuine care for one another.

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